We are supposed to leave at 5, so I come downstairs with my
hair brushed, earrings and bracelets on and as much of the blueberry juice
washed off my hands and arms as I could manage at 4:55. But Ronja and Franzi
are still in front of the computer, watching videos that have something to do
with hair styling, and Silke and Martin are nowhere to be found. We’re going to
a party tonight, something that is more traditional and interesting, as Silke
described it, at the church.
Out the front window I see Martin, pulling from the back of
his car the crate of 4 week old chicks which he said yesterday he was buying,
making Silke laugh exasperatedly. There are already 25 chickens on the farm,
and they’re only laying 3-4 eggs a day, in total.
“Industry chickens.” Martin scoffs, scowling down at them
pecking and clucking away in the grass. “They only lay eggs with industry food.
I must slaughter them all and get new, old breed chickens.”
Martin sees me watching and waves me outside. “I will mow some
grass for the goats now. You would like to collect it, please?” So I pull my
hair back off my neck and follow him with the wheelbarrow, moving the grass
into the goat’s pen for the next 45 minutes, not feeling so clean and fresh
anymore.
When we finally get into the car, the girls are all in
traditional Bavarian dresses (the female version of lederhosen, with
embroidered aprons and corsets tied with colorful ribbons) and their hair is
braided in wreaths atop their heads, flowers woven through.
“Wow!” I said to Ronja, the only one of the girls who speaks
to me eagerly “You look great!”
She beams, throwing her modern purse over her shoulder and
flattening her bright green apron.
“No lederhosen for you Martin?” I ask, a touch of sarcasm in
my voice. I know him well enough now to know this is a ridiculous proposition.
He rolls his eyes. “This is all silly. I don’t want to pay for
the expensive beer when I have work to do at home.” Silke slaps his leg gently.
“Is it a special holiday?” I ask, we’re driving now, through
the intermittent mossy forests and bright corn fields, up and down the rolling
hills to Amberg.
“It is the – howdoyousay – birthday?” I nod encouragingly, yes
this makes sense, “of the church,” Silke says. “This is a very popular
tradition in Bavaria. All of the villages celebrate, but this is one of the
biggest parties in the region. In the smaller villages, all of the people are
in the traditional clothes, also, but at this one, only the children.”
We drive about 10 kilometers past Amberg to Sulzbach-Rosenburg,
Silke’s hometown. This is the church she was baptized in, she tells me, not the
church they attend now, but it is her church, so they go. As we walk up, we see
her father and her sister, waiting for us. Everyone laughs softly as they hug
stiffly, in a German sort of way. “We are always late,” Silke says.
The party feels like a mix between a county fair and a
Renaissance Festival in the states. There are hundreds and hundreds of people,
parking in a wide opened field. The church is on top of a hill and would maybe
only seat about 150, very squished in. All around the church are small stalls with
delicious smelling smoking pouring from chimneys, selling wursts, kraut,
pretzels, ice cream, candy, pizza, and huge beer gardens, steins holding at
least 4 American beer bottles clicking in the air and shouts of “Prost!” all
around.
We sit with Silke’s mother and nieces and nephews, Martins
friends come quickly and join us. We order beer and food. One of Martin’s
friends looks my way and asks him something as he points to me. “Katy,” Martin
says, and they begin a conversation, looking at me sideways and saying
indistinguishable words with “Katy” thrown in the mix. I don’t know if I should
be acting like I know what they are talking about or look away politely like I
have no idea what’s going on. I opt for looking down at my beer and drinking
another long gulp, then ripping a piece of pretzel and some cheese dip.
Something I’ve noticed about being the only one at a party who
cannot speak the language at all: you just keep eating and drinking when you
have nothing, not even listening, to distract you.
I ask Silke how old the church is, and she thinks about it for
a minute, then shrugs and asks her father in German. He shrugs and she asks her
mother, who shrugs. Silke says “It’s not such an important birthday as 200 or
500 years. No one knows.” From across the table Martin says “Older than the
US!” which I am certain is true. Slike’s mom produces a huge bag of sweets
suddenly, marshmallows dipped in chocolate, caramel corn and suckers for the
children and no one cares any more how old the church is. It’s just a birthday,
which is what counts.
Ronja and her cousins skip by in their bright outfits, flowers
in their braids beginning to wilt in the hot sun and ask me if I want to go and
see the church now. I’m about to stand up when the server brings me another
beer and Ronja shrugs and runs away.
“I’m glad she likes you,” Silke says. “She doesn’t like all
the WWOOFers and it’s not so good when she doesn’t like them.” This makes me
feel so relieved, just as when Martin said that when I raked the cut grass it
was cleaner than other WWOOFers: without anyone else on the farm and all the
noncommittal requests for help (“if you’d like, you can weed near to the china
cabbage now, please?”) it’s so hard to judge how my work stands. Am I working
longer hours than normal? Shorter? Do I get up much too late? Do I communicate
more or less? Do I eat too much? Silke and Martin going out of their way to
tell me when things are good is reassuring that I’m not out of the norm, or at
least on the upper side of the bell curve.
I pull out my phone and snap a few pictures of the crowds and
the hillsides we’re looking down on. You can see the church steeples in Amberg
from here, a few hills and valleys away.
“NSA!” One of Martins friends starts yelling and laughing at
me. I laugh bashfully and say “No!” But I also put my phone away, feeling very
aware of my American-ness in this space where there are almost certainly no
other tourists.
Silke suddenly sits down again and says proudly, “I ask a
woman and the church is 355 years old. But I was thinking it is much older than
this.”
We spent about an hour and a half sipping beer and eating
sweets, then walk up the hill to see the church. Martin groans a few times, but
Silke insists, which makes me glad, because I would have just gone back to the
car, but I do want to see, if I can.
From the top of the hill, we can see the whole town of
Sulzbach-Rosenburg, the sun setting pink in the hills beyond. Steeples of other
churches rise peacefully among the sloped, orange roofts of the houses, a mess
of winding streets below. “It’s beautiful. What a nice town,” I say, admirably,
always the American blown away by the quaintness and beauty of these old
villages in Europe.
“No. It’s not so nice,” Silke corrects me. “When the iron
factory closed 4 years ago, 4,000 jobs are gone! Now there is 20 percent of
people without a job here. Second worst in all of Bavaria.”
“Oh,” is all I can say that I’m sure she’ll understand. “This
is not good.”
On the way home, as we drive back through the darkening
forests, speeding on one-lane winding roads, the radio is off and the two
younger girls sing rounds of German songs, clapping their hands and slapping
their thighs in unison. One after another, what I’d like to think were folk
songs (but lord knows, really) quietly float through the air, Silke singing
along nearly silently in the front seat as Ronja and Franzi giggle and chorus
together, Vroni sighing and turning up her iPod and Martin sleeping deeply in
the passenger seat.
It’s strange to think that to this family, I’m just a two week
stretch in a string of foreigners who comes consistently from April until
October; another person who learns the tasks of the farm, shares their table
briefly, then leaves. Will I be remembered at all? Am I the WWOOFer who fell
asleep during the final game of the World Cup, when neither Germany nor
Argentina had scored and the game went into overtime? The one who raked the
best?
I suppose it doesn’t matter. It does us no good to speculate
the ways in which we do or do not touch people’s lives. Better to remember and
honor who people are to us, what memories and feelings we carry of those who
enter our lives.
I love hearing your stories and perspectives!
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